How to Be a Music Detective
What’s your favorite music? Seems like a simple enough question. But the answers aren’t always obvious and, sometimes, they’re downright hard to get, especially when the person you’re asking has Alzheimer’s or another form of dementia—or if she’s from a foreign country that’s unfamiliar to you.
The best approach, says Letitia Rogers, a Music & Memory Coordinator, is to become a “music detective.” Letitia spent nearly 20 years working on Hollywood movies, as an assistant to composers, music agents and music editors, helping to pick music for film soundtracks.
Here are Letitia’s tips for becoming a music detective for those in your care:
Start with the fundamentals
• Did you listen to music when you were young?
• What’s your favorite song?
• Did anyone in your family play music? Did you?
• What song did you dance to at your wedding?
• Do you have any favorite music from attending a place of worship?
Asking basic questions like these may open the door to a longer, deeper conversation. But don’t be discouraged if you don’t get very far, since these questions are quite direct. Sometimes the individual won’t know the answer right away, or sometimes she won’t be able to recall because of her particular cognitive challenges.
That’s when you need to hone your music detective skills and look for clues.
With a few basic facts, including age and where the person lived at an earlier point in time, you can find a side door to the person’s musical favorites. Letitia cites this example: “A dementia patient I worked with at first said she didn’t know what kind of music she liked. Then I asked, ‘I was told you moved to Hollywood in the early ’40s. Did you ever go out when you were there?’ She shared that she remembered taking dance lessons with her brother.
‘Did you ever go out to dance?’
‘Oh, yes, we went to the Paladium, many times.’
“So we loaded her iPod with early Sinatra and Tommy Dorsey—then some Lawrence Welk, to tap her Midwest roots. Now she had something to bring her comfort in a place that she often forgot was her home.”
Bits and pieces
Sometimes all you’ll get from your initial questions is a phrase and a general guess of the type of music: “It was something about wavy black hair. It was an old country singer from when
I was young.” If the individual is in his 90s, he might be thinking of music from the ’40s.
One approach is to do an Internet search, using clues as key words. A search for “waving black hair country music” pulls up several listings for Wildwood Flower, including a listing on Country Music Treasures with the lyrics and quotes.
What if they can’t communicate?
Educated guesswork is key to success. If the person in your care can’t communicate or struggles with memory, your best bet is to find out as much as you can about the person’s background. In addition to age, find out where the person was born, where he lived, and his first language.
You may be able to find out about hobbies, sports and other pastimes that could suggest a starting point. What radio station do family members recall him listening to? What TV shows? Was he musical? Did he play an instrument or sing in a choir? All of this can help you solve the musical favorites mystery.
Overcoming language barriers
If the individual speaks a different language, start with family members, friends or staff who may be able to interpret. If you meet some resistance and skepticism about your knowledge of another culture’s music, don’t let that dissuade you. Do homework. Search the Internet for “top singer of all time” and see what turns up.
Armed with the name of a famous Arab singing artist, Letitia was able to convince the son of an Iraqi dementia patient that she was serious about finding music for his mother. Then, working through a staff interpreter, with the son’s help, she asked the mother if she preferred music with instruments, or with words and singing. “Singing,” she said.
“Of course,” recalls Letitia. “No one was speaking her language, so in addition to the isolation of dementia and moving away from her community, she was also losing the sound of her life and culture.” Soon after Letitia created the playlist, the woman was singing and clapping.
Ultimately, says Letitia, being a successful music detective requires some “intuition and luck.” But, she adds, that’s okay. “We’re on a search and journey together. You’re going to learn about the world on the way to learning about the person in your care. This is a journey to share.”
Reprinted with permission by Music & Memory — musicandmemory.org.