Pretending he needs the foodbank
Q) My neighbour is quite comfortably off but he’s frugal and has discovered free food at the local church and the Salvation Army shelter. It’s really for unhoused not seniors who can afford to pay for groceries. Should I rat him out and let the organization know?
A) Sadly, there is a small percentage of people in this world who take advantage of social programs when they don’t really need them. It seems to bother you but I wouldn’t recommend letting the organization know. Rather, you may want to have a gentle conversation with your neighbour at the right time and gently remind him of the foodbank’s purpose. If you’ve said your piece and nothing changes… leave it to the volunteers at the foodbank to monitor their donations.
Terrible diet and smoker
Q) My Dad lives alone is just over 60 now and thin. His diet is unhealthy take out and he smokes. He says he’s made it this far and doesn’t really have to worry? Would you agree?
A) We agree. Risky or unhealthy behaviours at any age should not be ignored. Poor diet and continued smoking may also affect your father’s dental health. While your dad is “his own man” and you can force change, continue to encourage fresher food, less smoking and an annual check-up from his doctor and dentist if nothing else.
Security cameras provide comfort
Q) The best thing we could have done was to install security cameras for my mother who lives alone down the street. The problem is, they are so sensitive that she keeps getting alerts and calling the police. Yesterday we found out it was a raccoon. Last week, a neighbour was taking out his garbage who set them off. Help.
A) In principle security cameras bring peace of mind to both you and your mum. But, yes, their sensitivity is creating a new problem for all of you. Best suggestion… call back the installation company to reset the system and/or partially re-direct angle of the cameras. Or, if all else fails, you may need to consider switching to a different manufacturer’s devices if that’s still possible.
Giving away the family pets
Q) I feel awful but I can’t look after my parent’s dog and cat any more. They are all somewhat incontinent (pets and parents) and its just too much work.. not to mention hygiene. The PSW’s are complaining too.
A) You’re not alone… this is a common problem. It might be time to have a chat with your parents about rehousing the animals. If they won’t agree, the first step may be a visit/discussion with a local veterinarian to check on the health of both animals and discuss options.
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