DON’T WANT HELP
My mom’s arthritis is getting worse, but she refuses to use a walker.
I’m afraid she’ll fall again. How do I convince her?
Resistance to using a mobility aid is common as many older adults are embarrassed to be seen as frail. Try reframing the walker as a tool for independence. Involve a professional who can provide a recommendation. Offer choices in walker style and colour to give her a sense of control. Patience, empathy, and framing it as safer and empowering, not limiting, can be more productive.
TIME MANAGEMENT
My caregiver takes a very long time to do everything and is often texting and doing other personal things while on the job. Is it okay for me to say something? It doesn’t seem fair.
Yes if she or he is doing other things while on duty it’s not right. If they’re from an agency please speak to the supervisor—it’s their job to handle it. However, you want to keep a good rapport. If the person is hired directly by you or your family, you’ll need to find a time to sit down and chat about roles and responsibilities. It’s always best to do things in writing at the same time. Express your concerns with some praise also at the same time and review the list of duties and your expectations.
FINANCIAL CONFUSION
I’m overwhelmed managing my dad’s finances and care. I’m not trained for this and worry I’ll make a costly mistake. What should I do?
Feeling unprepared is valid and not unusual. Start by organizing key documents and download a financial checklist to stay on track. Make sure you have a financial power of attorney or another person is assigned. Reach out to community organizations or elder law professionals for support. Many will offer free or low-cost consultations. Professional guidance and shared responsibility with others can reduce stress and protect your parent’s well-being.
MEDS DON’T WORK
My brother-in-law had a bad reaction to a new medication and ended up in hospital. How can I prevent that from happening again?
Adverse drug reactions can often be prevented with clear communication and oversight. Keep an up-to-date list of all medications—including over-the-counter and supplements—and share it with every healthcare provider. Ask the pharmacist to review potential interactions when filling new prescriptions. Consider using one pharmacy for all medications to track changes. If possible, schedule a medication review with a doctor or clinical pharmacist annually. Being proactive can significantly reduce the risk of future complications.
