By all accounts, a fuddy duddy (fd) is a bit of an old-fashioned, fussy person. Some say f-d’s have little or no sense of humour, can be slightly pompous and quite quick to judge or disapprove. Not sure if stubborn fits in here somewhere or not.
Many blame fd-style behaviour on age, decline and the inability to change. Others suggest that it’s cultural. And, there are those who consider it judgemental, derogatory, dismissive and ageist when the term is levelled, particularly when addressing an elder.
Regardless, of whether the term is not acceptable, occasionally okay to say out loud,or simply whispered in frustration, certain human characteristics displayed by those in your care are just plain difficult and hard to handle.
Moving into modern times as we must and acknowledging current health care needs is hard to deny or ignore. But focus on the patient we must so… here’s the thing fuddy duddies need to be listened to and loved too. They require bucket loads of patience and an inordinate amount of attention.
Are you surprised that Dad’s difficult and mum’s a fuss budget. Easier said than done perhaps but here is what experts suggest:
1. Stay calm and carry on.
2. Do your best.
3. Take a deep breath.
4. Pick your fights.
5. Find time to listen.
6. Use every last one of your negotiating and decision-making skills.
7. Smile and see the positive, even when you have to bite your tongue.
8. And last but not least ask for help.
Remember that your well-being is just as important as theirs.
Caroline Tapp-McDougall,
Editor-in-Chief
caroline@bcsgroup.com
