At a time when we are more “connected” than ever, loneliness is said to be a health epidemic that affects far too many of us. While our needs change as we age and the type of friends we might be attracted to or be happy with could be different, the ability to meet people seems to be diminished and social isolation is all too familiar for older adults. On a large scale, this phenomenon has been on the rise for the last 20 years according to experts, which actually increase the risk of early death from all causes. Being isolated is said to be as harmful as smoking up to 15 cigarettes a day and conversely while having friends is reported to make a task less onerous, lower blood-pressure and improve cardiovascular reactivity. Often overshadowed by family relationships and partnerships, close friendships have been shown to be a factor in both longevity and having a fulfilling life.
In today’s rush-rush, hyperconnected digital world we often overlook or forget about what it takes to foster friendships. A commitment to nurturing and engaging with others requires energy and a concerted effort to reach out in person. Maintaining relationships involves building a future and consistently caring enough to show up not only when you or they need something. It’s about creating a steady steam or regular flow that supports healthy lives, careful well-balanced decision-making and meaningful activities.
As Psychologist Irene Levine suggests in her book, Best Friends, Forever, “digital relations are not a substitute for “face-to-face, hip-to-hip get-togethers when two friends can leisurely connect and share—even spending time together to saying nothing. Only friends can’t provide the type of caring and support”.
Maybe it’s time to resurrect your Rolodex!
Caroline Tapp-McDougall
Editor-In-Chief
caroline@bcsgroup.com
